Of all the problematic mindsets I’ve identified in myself and focused energy on managing, victim mentality was – and continues to be – by far one of the trickiest. What was particularly tricky for me, and what trips many others up as well, is that we tend to associate victim mentality with people who are whiny, dour, and filled with self-pity they feel duty-bound to share with those around them.
Before I learned what it means to be an introvert, followed by me realizing that I am one myself, I spent many years confused, frustrated and afraid that there was something wrong with me – that I was “oriented” differently than others. As a result, I used up a lot of my social energy pretending that I was more straightforward than I actual was, hiding the truth about the things I was attracted to, like alone time for example.
As an employee of an advertising agency, I consider myself fortunate to be able to work in a creative environment. Of course, my role isn’t all about creativity – like any job, mine has its fair share of repetitive tasks. But lucky for me, I am also part of tasks that engage the side of me that was born to think outside the box – or even find ways of getting creative while inside the box.
I come from the generation of workers who were told – by parents, teachers, career guidance counsellors, and Steve Jobs – that to achieve success professionally you must “follow your dreams and passions.” While this is a beautiful sentiment with good intentions, it fails to take an important disclaimer into consideration:
We can’t all have a dream job.
For decades it’s been served to us: the idea that proper nutrition entails our consumption of three, balanced meals per day, spread out between breakfast, lunch, and dinner – with an early morning breakfast being the “most important meal of the day.” That same three-meals-a-day advice has undergone several modifications, the most current belief being that five or six small meals are superior to three large ones, in order to “keep our metabolism going all day” and prevent us from gorging ourselves when we do eat (because we are mindless eating vacuums, evidently). Enter intermittent fasting.
Deciding whether or not to take antidepressants can (and ought to be) a decision you make only after careful consideration. There are many ideas, opinions, and beliefs floating around out there about antidepressants, and knowing what information to trust can be confusing, frustrating, and even frightening.