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The Crazy Man Who Lives in a Dirty Mansion

May 30, 2017
Dirty Mansion

I’m moving this month – always an all-consuming and exhausting task.

I’m also a renter, a reality for many people living in the city. Since moving to Toronto in 2004, the prospect of buying a home hasn’t really been a possibility for me – similar to how I know it would be cool to fly like Superman, but it’ll never actually happen. And that was even before the housing market became ridiculous. Scratch that: beyond ridiculous. Continue Reading

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Commuting Is Hell! My Trick for Making It Easier

September 23, 2016
Commuting

As with every other September, now that school is back in session there seems to be twice as much traffic on the streets. People are more anxious, they’re hurrying more, and they’re moodier. While the stress commuting to work places on our health (and the health of the environment) has been well-documented, as individuals we tend to overlook just how much it weighs on us and affects our overall happiness. Continue Reading

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Be a Hero, Not a Victim: How to Escape Victim Mentality

August 10, 2016
Victim Mentality

Of all the problematic mindsets I’ve identified in myself and focused energy on managing, victim mentality was – and continues to be – by far one of the trickiest. What was particularly tricky for me, and what trips many others up as well, is that we tend to associate victim mentality with people who are whiny, dour, and filled with self-pity they feel duty-bound to share with those around them.

Do those sound like qualities you want to associate with yourself? I didn’t think so. Continue Reading

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Change Is Scary – But You’re Built for It

June 2, 2016
Change

Making big change to the course of your life is not easy. We all know it’s hard to make the decision to change one job for another, or leave a long-term relationship, or move to a new home.

The reason these changes are so hard is because of the fear they produce in us. We are designed by nature to avoid uncertain situations, and what happens when we make a change is that we’re moving from certainty into uncertainty.

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How to Be Action-Oriented

March 10, 2016
Action-oriented

I realize that “action-oriented” has a stale corporate connotation, something you’d place in the “Skills and Interests” section of your résumé, or a trait you’d discuss with a boss during an annual performance review. But before you groan, hear me out! There is actually something to it.

But first, what exactly is action-orientation?

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10 Hacks for Heavy Emotions

November 6, 2015
Emotions

*Thanks to all the incredibly wise individuals who have shared these hacks with me over the years. You’ve changed my life.

Most people I know would describe me as cool, relaxed, and easy-going – like a person who doesn’t get worked up or emotional or stressed out. To those who know me, and to those who read my carefully written blog posts, the following may come as a bit of surprise:

I used to have a hard time managing my emotions.

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Pragmatism: An Approach to Living

October 8, 2015
Pragmatism

Usually when we use the word pragmatic we mean to say that something is practical, useful, or functional.

But there is another usage of the word that we are less familiar with, and that is in reference to the philosphy of pragmatism. This is a subject that I am – by no means – an expert on, but a subject I’m very excited about because, well…

…because it’s how I live my life. Continue Reading

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Cycling Safety: Why You Should Obey the Rules of the Road

July 29, 2015
Cycling Safety

In the warmer months, I commute to work by bike, which means I spend a lot of time on it. I also take my cycling safety very seriously because, well, I don’t want to get injured or worse.

One morning, while biking along Dundas Street east of Sherbourne (before the Dundas bike lane begins), one of TO’s ancient streetcars pulled up alongside me. We were cruising along side-by-side for about 150 metres, me in the right lane and the tram in the left. When suddenly a fast-moving pickup truck barreled past in the narrow gap between my skeletal system and the streetcar, not two inches from striking me with his sideview mirror. Continue Reading

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Emotional Overload and the Messy Pile-Up

May 28, 2015
Emotional Overload

Oh, emotional overload. Feelings piled upon feelings piled upon feelings, until ka-boom!

Have you ever felt upset about something and you’re not sure why? So you feel a bit embarrassed for being upset at something so silly. And then on top of that you’re also confused about what you’re feeling, which makes you feel annoyed and even a bit angry. And then after a while you start feeling pretty overwhelmed and you’re not even sure where it all started, and your head starts spinning….

…because you’re caught in a messy pile-up of emotional overload. Continue Reading